
I’d recommend checking out the Far Cry games, from Far Cry 2 onwards.
Also, while not necessarily exactly the thing you’re looking for, the Sniper Ghost Warrior series offers a lot of good stuff. especially SGW3 and later are really fun and have pretty decent gunplay and the games can be played pretty nicely without focusing on the sniper aspect.
And if you feel like doing even more snipering, Sniper Elite gives you some NICE slow-mo X-ray closeups of your bullets destroying your enemies, but the gunplay besides Snipers isn’t that fun.

When game developers noticed the market for GPUs is growing and processing in general are getting more advanced, they started to care less about optimizing their games. That’s literally it. It’s laziness.
There are still devs that do their best to really optimize their games but most studios, especially AAA ones don’t care.
Minecraft, The Sims and Minesweeper. Minecraft specifically on Peaceful Creative settings so the kids can do creative stuff without scary monsters. Trine Enchanted Edition could also work, but with parental supervision.